Hi, guys and welcome back. So here’s something you may not know if you’re new around here and don’t know me. I have suffered from anxiety issues for the most part of my life. They go back to I think the first time I really felt anxious was probably as a teenager. I just remember I had an overwhelming sense of panic the smallest thing felt like the biggest thing. I over thought everything in my head and My anxiety manifested in so many ways. Everything from checking my door multiple times, feeling nervous that somebody was gonna break into my house, you name I have worried about it.
For me, It really became amplified after my daughter was born 3 months premature when I was in my early twenties it was a really unhealthy time of my life and it really set my anxiety off. I was feeling really overwhelmed, very depressed and genuinely stressed.
It wasn’t until recently that I decided I really needed to get a hold of how I was feeling and at least attempt to manage it.
Anxiety is just an energy and you can channel it into whatever you want.
During an attack, I would think how I needed to shut these feelings off. After doing some research online and listening to therapy podcasts discovering people that teach you how to channel the anxiety and use it to work for you! instead of against you. Seems crazy impossible initially but its a game changer.
So today I wanted to talk openly and honestly about anxiety, mental wellness and mental health. Today still it’s such a hush-hush topic in society. I am a huge believer in mindfulness and choosing good thoughts but first, we gotta talk about the messy shit and the not so glamorous moments. I have them all the time, in fact, I had one of those moments last week. 2018 is a transitional year for our family My oldest daughter is five she’s now in school full time, my youngest is 2 and will hopefully start nursery this summer. We recently moved into our forever home which needs a little work, so we’re busy with all aspects. I also started thinking about how much free time I would have and that I want to get back working. Which in turn got me thinking what do I want to do now, where do I want to go in my career life. Focusing on my photography and my writing and thinking what do I want the end of this year to look like not really sure what is coming next or how it all ties together.
Obviously, when you’re trying to figure things out that when anxiety creeps in. Sometimes its subconsciously if you would have asked me two weeks ago do you feel anxious I would have said no way. But things can just come out when we least expect it. certain things can trigger anxiety for me specifically I can now see and understand that what triggered my anxiety is caffeine I am huge coffee drinking I love a cup of coffee but I need to cut back.
That morning I woke up and it consisted of our usual family routine. By mid-morning nap time, I had caffeine and very little food were pumping through my veins. I was researching photography courses and blog seminars mapping out where I wanted myself to be in five years time. All of a sudden I felt my heart racing, my hands started to shake my vision got a little weird and blurry. I thought ok this had to be the coffee and lack of food then my palms got a little sweaty and my heart began beating faster. I immediately know – anxiety attack – where has this come from whats going on?.
My first action is to ground myself. Immediately recognising I am having an anxiety attack this doesn’t matter if its physically affecting you or its only in your head. I looked at myself in the mirror and said: “you are ok, you are fine I am just having an anxiety attack, I am recognising this feeling but you are ok”. Next, fresh air – standing outside deep breathing always makes me feel better. Yes, it was a little jarring but it reminded me that even though I have been ok I am still susceptible to having an attack.
There’s something about looking at yourself in the mirror noticing that you look normal. You look like yourself you don’t look how you feel.At that moment yes you feel dishevelled and you think you look crazy but you don’t and seeing that really helps.
4 7 8 method
Breathe in a really deep breath through your nose – count 1, 2, 3, 4 hold your breath count 5, 7 and on 8 breathe out through your mouth. repeat 2/3 times is enough for me
Anxiety is something we can control so I’m not telling you what works for me will work for you. if its something you really struggle with I highly recommend speaking to somebody who is a professional and evaluate how you feel.
what has worked for me in my life is focusing on my self-care.
Really creating a healthy mind and body for myself. Little daily exercises, it doesn’t have to be drastic I have really been enjoying yoga. just 15-20 minutes a day in a quiet room with my chill playlist creating a space to let go of all that negative shit this is so sacred to me. for you that can be boxing, running, pilates whatever it is making sure you’re creating a space to let go of those nervous feeling and energy – dump it off!
This was a HUGE game changer for me. I have always been quite happy sat inside looking out on to the world actually getting out into the world really helps. there is something about nature that gets you in the zone and centres you. pop your phone on aeroplane mode, let yourself get lost in the moment. Just watching clouds pass by or trees blowing in the wind. So important for your sense of peace. don’t underestimate how important this is last year we went to the seaside and I sat and watched the waves crashing, birds flying over, the sounds of nature and I felt so calm.
we spend so much of our times connected to our phones or computers which is unavoidable in this day and age it gives us opportunities to connect but we crave more as human beings. I am telling you your anxiety will be calmed by nature those little moments are actually huge moments with huge benefits and impact
getting enough sleep
– having kids or working it’s not easy – but if you’re not complimenting those busy moments with rest and recharge you’re doing yourself a huge disservice. Figure out what is healthy rest for you. For me, I need about 7 hours I don’t need a lot of sleep like 9 10 hours I rarely sleep in even when I have the opportunity. Be honest with yourself and get that quality sleep. I use lavender, wash my sheets regularly listen to a podcast and naturally switch off. Whatever works make sure sleep is a priority, lack of sleep will make you feel crazy.
pay close attention to what you’re eating.
Your diet has a massive impact more than I think some realise. get that brain food just a quick google search will show you foods that your body and mind will benefit from.
you have to realise that your mind and body are intertwined
So there we have it…I just want you to realise that if you do feel like this know you are not alone. A lot of people feel scared to talk about it but its a fact of life. We need to protect our mind and body and live as healthy as possible.
please let me know if this was helpful